Eva and her husband consciously chose not to have children. A decision that she, as a woman, often has to explain to others. And that needs to change, she thinks.
‘When will the children come’
“Especially when we first got married, I heard so often: ‘And when are the children coming?’ Domenico was never asked that question,” she says. “You may find it annoying, but it says something about the world we live in. About the people who apparently think it’s crazy that you consciously choose to be childless. Whether they judge it: it probably won’t work, or: then they probably don’t like children.”
She notes that attitudes are slowly changing, although there is still a long way to go. “I think it will take a while before it is really accepted, just like with any other cultural change,” she says. “I notice that it is no longer so obvious that everyone just has children, or has a relationship at all, especially in Amsterdam, where I live.”
Large family or childless family
She emphasizes that her criticism is not aimed at people who want a large family: “It’s all good: if you want six children, fantastic. If you don’t want one, that’s also great, it’s your body and your life. We have to get out of that mud of old thoughts.”
Eva and her husband Domenico agree on this choice. She emphasizes how important that is. “At some point I asked myself the question: what kind of life do I want, and is that a life with or without children? It quickly became clear to me that I didn’t want them myself, even though I really like children. I even go on holiday with friends with children. Fortunately, Domenico thought the same, because otherwise you have to make hard choices at some point.”
You probably know Eva van der Gucht from her roles in ‘Eyeballs’, ‘the Claus family’ and ‘Wie is de Mol?’ Libelle TV asked about her last bad purchase, when she last flirted and when she was last stressed.